Biblical and Practical Thoughts on Parenting, Part One: When Christ Is Lord of the Home

I have started a new series here at Between the Times, sharing biblical and practical thoughts on parenting that I have collected through the years. Last week, I introduced the series and gave some thoughts as to the reasoning behind it. As I mentioned, some posts will be full articles and others will simply be outlines that you can use as you teach or as you lead your own family.

First, I simply want to appeal to the most important principle that we should have as parents, and that is the conviction that Christ is the Lord of the home. Everything else that we do must fall under this one understanding, or we will head in the wrong direction despite our best intentions. To know what this looks like practically, we need to look no further than Colossians 3:18-21 (HCSB):

18 Wives, be submissive to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and don’t be bitter toward them. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so they won’t become discouraged.

When we break this down, we see four major components to a home where Christ is Lord.

When Christ Is Lord Of The Home

Colossians 3:18-21


I.      Wives Will Yield To Their Husbands.                                           3:18

1)      Wives will give their submission to their husbands.

2)      Wives will give their adoration to the Lord.


II.    Husbands Will Love Their Wives.                                                   3:19

1)      Husbands will provide the best for their wives.

2)      Husbands will avoid bitterness towards their wives.


III.  Children Will Honor Their Parents.                                               3:20

1)      Obedient children will bless their earthly parents.

2)      Obedient children will please their heavenly Father.


IV.   Parents Will Encourage Their Children.                                     3:21

1)      Parents should not unfairly demean their children.

2)      Parents should not unwisely discourage their children.


These four concepts may seem simple on the surface, but we know that in practice these behaviors can be difficult to carry out. Only in a home where Christ is Lord can we know the power to defeat sin and free us to love one another.

On Thursday, we will look at what it means to function biblically in today’s family. But today, we recognize that everything begins with the Lordship of Christ.





Biblical and Practical Thoughts on Parenting: Introducing a New Series

One of the great blessings of life for most of us is that of being a parent– a dad or a mom. Some of us even have the joyful experience of being grandparents! We all know that being good, godly parents is a challenge. It is hard work. But, it is rewarding work.

Over the years, I have collected and put together some materials that I found helpful, and so I thought I would pass them on through a new series here at Between the Times. Some will be simply outlines. Others will be playful articles, and still others some helpful guidelines and principles that I hope you may find useful.

On many occasions, I have been asked about my “parental philosophy.” I am basically a very simply person, so you should not be surprised that my thoughts on parenting are the same. It boils down to two propositions: 1. Teach your children about Jesus, and 2. Have fun with them.

You say, “That’s it?” Yep, that’s it. Growing out of that, I did tell our four sons that if they would grow up to love and serve Jesus, I did not care what they did. So, in the days ahead, let’s think together and have some fun together. I am no expert! Just a fellow pilgrim flying by the seat of my pants asking for a lot of God’s grace, doing the best I know how.

This series will run on Tuesdays and Thursdays. We’ll start next Tuesday with what it looks like when Christ is Lord of the home. I look forward to sharing and interacting in the days ahead.