Biblical and Practical Thoughts on Parenting, Part 24: Understanding Parents

Wise children will want to please their parents.  But first they must understand them!  As any teenager knows, parents are tough to figure out.  Sometimes they are just plain weird.  These seven tips may help you see where your parents are coming from:

  1. Don’t shy away from speaking their language.  Try some strange sounding words like “Let me help you with the dishes,” or “Yes,” or “Thank you, I appreciate you.”
  2. Try to understand their mind.  Put yourself in their place and ask yourself, “What would I do in this situation knowing what I know?”
  3. Be patient with their weaknesses.  If you catch your mom sneaking a candy bar, don’t jump all over her.  Quietly set a good example.
  4. Encourage your parents to talk about their problems.  Keep in mind that things like earning a living, providing things for you, and paying off the mortgage seem important to them.
  5. Be tolerant of their appearance.  When your father gets a hair-cut, don’t try to hide him from your friends.  Remember, it’s important to him to look like his peers.
  6. If they do something you think is wrong, let them know that you dislike their behavior, not them.  Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
  7. Above all, pray for them.  They may seem confident on the outside but often they feel weak on the inside.  They, as well as you, need God to get them through these difficult years.

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