We’ve covered several different aspects of the family as we consider how to think biblically and practically in our roles as parents. Today, I want to look at what makes a good home.
The Committee on Home Responsibility of the National Conference on Juvenile Delinquency is on record with this 14-point definition. There is great wisdom here that is consistent with biblical truth.
A good home for children may be a one-room apartment, a trailer, or a twelve-room house, but it a good home for a child if…
- He is loved and wanted-and knows it.
- He is helped to grow up by not having too much or too little done for him.
- He has some time and some space of his own.
- He is a part of the family, has fun with the family, and knows he belongs.
- His early mistakes and “badness” are understood as a normal part of growing up; he is corrected without being hurt, shamed or confused.
- His growing skills-walking, talking, reading, making things-are enjoyed and respected.
- He plans with the family and is given real ways to help and feel needed throughout childhood.
- He has freedom that fits his age and his needs; he has responsibilities that fit his age, abilities, and freedom.
- He can say what he feels and talk things out without being afraid or ashamed; he can learn through mistakes as well as successes. And his parents appreciate his successes rather than dwell up on his failures.
- As he grows older, he knows his parents are doing the best they can; they know the same about him.
- He feels his parents care as much about him as they do about his brothers and sisters.
- The family sticks together and the members help one another.
- He is moderately and consistently disciplined from infancy, has limits set for his behavior, and is helped to take increasing responsibility for his own action.
- He has something to believe in and work for because his parents have lived their ideals and religious faith.