Biblical and Practical Thoughts on Parenting, Part Six: What Makes a Good Home

We’ve covered several different aspects of the family as we consider how to think biblically and practically in our roles as parents. Today, I want to look at what makes a good home.

The Committee on Home Responsibility of the National Conference on Juvenile Delinquency is on record with this 14-point definition.  There is great wisdom here that is consistent with biblical truth.

A good home for children may be a one-room apartment, a trailer, or a twelve-room house, but it a good home for a child if…

  1. He is loved and wanted-and knows it.
  2.  He is helped to grow up by not having too much or too little done for him.
  3.  He has some time and some space of his own.
  4.  He is a part of the family, has fun with the family, and knows he belongs.
  5.  His early mistakes and “badness” are understood as a normal part of growing up; he is corrected without being hurt, shamed or confused.
  6.  His growing skills-walking, talking, reading, making things-are enjoyed and respected.
  7.  He plans with the family and is given real ways to help and feel needed throughout childhood.
  8.  He has freedom that fits his age and his needs; he has responsibilities that fit his age, abilities, and freedom.
  9.  He can say what he feels and talk things out without being afraid or ashamed; he can learn through mistakes as well as successes.  And his parents appreciate his successes rather than dwell up on his failures.
  10.  As he grows older, he knows his parents are doing the best they can; they know the same about him.
  11.  He feels his parents care as much about him as they do about his brothers and sisters.
  12.  The family sticks together and the members help one another.
  13.  He is moderately and consistently disciplined from infancy, has limits set for his behavior, and is helped to take increasing responsibility for his own action.
  14.  He has something to believe in and work for because his parents have lived their ideals and religious faith.
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